As 2017 came to a close, I picked a word or an idea I wanted to operate by in 2018. This year it is "no fear." This is not the same as fearless. That is a little too warrior-like for me running head long into any situation. "No fear" is more of a philosophy to move more easily toward my goals. Let me explain.
This past summer my husband and I had friends visiting from Ontario. My friend and I were talking about our career paths because she was looking for a new job. I am self-employed as a Keynote Speaker, Coach, & Author. As a self-employed person, you always have to be "putting yourself out there" taking on challenges that scare you sometimes. My friend commented,
"You do all these things you say you fear.
Why would you do that?"
My first response was, "I have to. I want to."
Later, I reflected more deeply about her question realizing there was more to it than my initial, simple answer. I realized the reason I do things that scare me is:
1) everything scares me. If I didn't do it, I'd do nothing. Let's be clear. I don’t walk around shaking in my boots. There are degrees of fear. It feels more like resistance.
Small fear equals "What will others think? Will I fail? What if I am not good enough?"
Big fear equals "I am going to die."
All of what I feel is on the small end of fear, but fear feels large when it is looming on the inside of you regardless of the circumstance. This year as I feel resistance rising (a.k.a. fear) I will recognize it, move through it and take on the challenge because I will operate from the philosophy of "no fear."
2) but the BIGGER reason I do things that scare me is...if I didn't do the things that scare me, I'd be in pain.
Pain feels like:
not feeling fulfilled
not doing what I am meant to do in this life.
Show me someone who knows who they are and what they want and does not go after it, I will show you someone in pain.
Fear should not be the reason that holds you back in life. What I have realized about fear is that it appears as a wall of fog. At first glance, you cannot see what is on the other side. It looks impassable and heavy, but once you step into the fog, it is airy and light. You can easily move through it. Too often we build things up to be worse than it is.
"Fear is a self-manufactured state of mind."
What is something you know you must do even though it scares you?
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To your continued growth,